Hustle culture - committing your life to your job and career - has become normalized and even expected in young adults. After graduating university, many find their self worth linked to their career, earning promotions, competing with coworkers, and impressing your boss. As a twenty something year old with Inflammatory Bowel Disease, the struggle to balance work with your health is never ending.
Those with a chronic illness understand not to take life for granted and that each day can be as unpredictable as the next, but we often forget this and get caught up in prioritizing a career over our own health and wellbeing. Calling in sick to work is inevitable, everyone has to do it at some point in their lives, whether it’s for a mental health day, the flu, or a flare-up. Yet, there are so many negative stigmas around missing work and around prioritizing your body.
The feelings of guilt that come with calling in sick to nurture your body, whether you see your body deteriorating, know a flare is coming, or if a flare comes out of the blue, can be overwhelming. The stigma associated with hustle culture and calling in sick can feel disheartening. I have always had a hard time taking a sick day, and I always felt like I was letting my boss and coworkers down and that I wasn’t worthy of employment. Intense feelings of frustration and annoyance invaded my mind when debating whether to call in sick and these intrusive thoughts caused my body more stressors on top of being physically ill. I often remind myself that prioritizing my body is my number one job. Without my health, I wouldn’t have a job and I wouldn’t be able to participate in all the amazing experiences life has to offer.
A helpful comparison to calling in sick is the safety instructions reviewed when boarding a flight, right before take off. The flight attendant always reviews the emergency instructions, stating that if the plane were to lose oxygen, you are always to put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else. Putting yourself first will enable you to not only succeed at your job, but also to succeed in other aspects of life. If you were to ignore your body’s signals that you need rest, you will become more sick and risk the most important thing, your health.
You are not weak, undeserving, or less important than your colleagues and friends because you need to call in sick more often than the average person. You are strong, resilient, and brave. We battle a viciously unpredictable disease that many do not understand. Do not let your worth be measured by whether you call in sick. I challenge you to listen to your body and honour what your body is saying, you never know how far you will fly until you respect and love yourself and with that includes respecting your body’s limits.
Recently, I took two sick days at work due to a small flare up and my boss and coworkers were overly supportive. Although feelings of guilt surfaced when I was making this decision, the second I returned to work, everyone showed how much they cared about my wellbeing.
If you are experiencing toxicity in the workplace, contact the Human Resources department. If your company does not have a HR department, set up a meeting with your boss or manager. If you continue to be pressured to not take sick days, to put your job before your health, this may be time to look for another job and boss that cares about you and allows you to put your health first.
On this note, being able to call in sick has undeniable privilege. Many people across the world are unable to call in sick without suffering financially or being penalized at work. Openly having these hard conversations during the hiring process or with your HR department will contribute to breaking the stigma and providing accommodations for those that are chronically ill. It’s important to speak with your boss or HR representatives regarding sick leave, paid sick days, and working from home options. Speak up to your government representatives and express the need for a handful of mandatory paid sick days across your province or state.