This article is by Saravanan Nagappan from Malaysia.
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Many of my ostomy friends confided that their life has changed since they became an ostomate. They feel their quality of life has deteriorated after having a stoma. They are unable to enjoy their life as before they became an ostomate. They mention changes to their diet, workout, and their social activities not remaining the same as before. Yes, I have to agree with them, because what they say is a common fact for an ostomate to experience and I personally faced the same issue as well even a decade being an ostomate, still my life is not the same as before. I’m going to share with you a few tips on how I have managed to reduce the impact a stoma has on quality of life based on my experiences.
Accepting your new life as an ostomate
The first tip is acceptance. We need to accept that we are ostomates and prepare for it both mentally and physically. At the end of 2011, my surgeon approached me and suggested that I have to go for Ostomy surgery as it was the best way to heal my fistula. My surgeon informed me regarding the complications I would be facing. At that time, I was confused and worried. I took a few days to decide whether I want to do it or not. The decisions involved many considerations, especially the changes in my life that come from being an ostomate and living my entire life as one afterward. After a long discussion with my family, I finally agreed to go for the surgery. I psyched myself up mentally by listing the benefits of this surgery and the changes it would bring to my life especially the physical ones. Since I accepted my situation and geared up for it, post-surgery changes were not monumental. My goal at that point in my life was to heal my fistula and get my Crohn’s under control. It was more than enough for me.
Adapting to new norms
The next piece of advice is adapting to new norms. This is important for an ostomate because a new ostomate is like a newborn. We are reborn into a new physical self and the changes it brings to our routine are something we have to relearn all over again. Without a choice, we have to adjust to new norms. Common new norms are our diet, daily routine, and social activities. It’s impossible to change everything overnight, but focus on small changes in our daily life and we will be able to see the impact in the long term. Once we learn how to slowly accept and adapt to our new norms, we will find it easier to live our life as an ostomate. The problem occurs when we refuse to accept new changes or routines. Inability to accept the changes can lead to deterioration of life quality.
Pre-planning your days
The following tip is to pre-plan. Pre-planning everything you want to do is one of the ways to improve an ostomate’s quality of life. Pre-planning a daily routine or outing is common in anyone’s life. However, it could be an essential habit for an ostomate. For example, assume that you need to attend an event in a few days’ time. In order to attend this event, you need to pre-plan your diet so you can avoid any food that can cause gases. By doing this you may avoid visiting the washroom all the time in front of others and enjoy the event more. Not only diet, but you can also pre-plan for other matters such as your physical and emotional wellbeing as well. Remember pre-planning can help to prevent any last-minute mishaps or emergency withdrawal from a situation.
Physical exercise for a better quality of life
As a final tip, I personally suggest that ostomates perform some physical exercises. After my surgery, I thought that my workout routine had come to an end. However, my thoughts had changed after I met a few senior ostomates. They advised me to not abandon my workout and they guided and motivated me on how ostomates should do their workouts. I started again with basic workout routines and challenged myself to go for the harder level. So how do workouts improve our quality of life? Doing physical exercises help to build our body muscles, reduce unwanted fats, keep our body fit and flexible and also improve our blood circulation and digestive systems. Moreover, workouts help to remove toxins from our bodies. which will keep our bodies healthier. Exercises also help to keep our minds active and create more positive energy within us. All these could tremendously improve ostomates’ quality of life.
In a nutshell, ostomy surgery is a life-saving procedure for many patients. Therefore, it should not be treated as a burden. Rather, we must take our own individualized care and explore new choices to improve the quality of life after ostomy surgery. I hope these tips can help you in your ostomy journey.