By Amy Weider
Growing up food was always a celebration for my family. Food was how and why we would come together and build traditions. We would eat lobsters for every New Years to signify good luck and we'd come together to break the claws and soak them in butter. I remember watching my mother make us a classic midwestern casserole on a weeknight and the Food Network was never not on in the background. Food has always been such a critical part of my life. It brings me joy and memories. So when I started getting sick around 9 years old my relationship with it was forced to change. I began to have severe stomach pains and was unable to hold any food down. The first instinct when someone is having intestinal issues is to always investigate diet. My loving mother quickly made the switch to all-organic everything, bland food, and no more sugary drinks. At 10, I very quickly had to change what I ate and go on intense diets. It was hard for me, as food is such an important part of my life and a means of joy. But nevertheless, my family supported me through it and we went through the motions. Gluten-free for a bit, dairy-free, liquid-based only, we tried it all.
Alas, nothing worked. I was still, if not more, sick and constantly exhausted. Once the diets failed, I was given a colonoscopy and ultimately I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease. My Crohn's Disease was not fixed by a diet. In fact, no Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD)is caused or cured by food. Diet can help with inflammation or regulation of the disease, but diet also affects every IBD patient extremely differently. Most often, this is not how it’s portrayed and it’s hard for folks with IBD to carry the weight of the assumption that there is a one-size-fits-all cure. Ever since I first became sick, I have had people tell me constantly that if I ate a certain way I'd be fixed and that it is my fault I developed such nasty health problems. Hearing these things as a kid made me aware of diet culture very early on.
Diet culture is the world we live in. It is everywhere. Diet culture can be defined as the patrolling of people’s weight under the guise of health, while it is really about control, shame, and reinforcing eurocentric skinny body standards and eating trends. Concrete examples of diet culture are folks labeling certain foods as “good” or “bad”, or the shaming of others for not eating the “right things.” Diet culture and the weight-loss marketplace is a $70 billion industry. There is no way of avoiding these harmful tactics of major companies marketing off of your body’s imperfections and longing to achieve the societal standard of a femme body. It becomes very difficult to balance the thin line between diet culture and a change in your nutrition for your health’s sake. Specific diets that are used to help manage IBD are often glamorized as the “new, hot trend that will make you drop ten pounds quickly!” There needs to be a greater understanding of how privileged it is to merely treat these diets as fads. They are often highly inaccessible, expensive, and fail for those who are just casually attempting them. But for others, for example those who have Celiac, this isn’t an option for them. There is so much nuance that is frequently overlooked when prescribing diets and there needs to be more attention given to diet vs. health and nutrition. The mask that is diet culture can very quickly take over one’s life.
When you Google “Crohn’s Disease” you cannot miss the slew of diet suggestions for anti-inflammatory foods or titles like “Gluten-free Fixed My Life!” Hearing people make statements like “you could cure that by eating ‘blank’,” has become a huge trigger for me. My relationship with food has had its rocky times, but it’s still a place I find deep comfort. Comments like these stem directly from diet culture and the invalidation of lived experiences. There is no right way to have Crohn’s Disease. Everyone’s life experiences differ greatly and the main lessons I’ve taken away from mine are to be open, ask questions, and not push assumptions onto others. Open a space for folks to guide a conversation about their dietary restrictions and needs if that’s what they want. NEVER suggest a new diet to an IBD patient unless you are their medical provider. Trust me, we have heard everything.