Just this past June, I was rushed into the emergency room for examination under anesthesia (EUA) to address internal fistula and abscess formation. As life would have it, this was the same week that I was to start my D.C. internship in the Senate; with the new intern orientation ticking around the corner, I found myself drowning in anxiety just sitting in the emergency room.
In a short amount of time, I had to manage my stress levels while planning for what my new summer life would look like post-surgery. With that being said, here are three tips to handle your post-surgery:
1. It is your choice on how you tell your immediate circles about your surgery.
Sharing news about going into the operating room, especially under short notice, can be harrowing. In today’s age of social media, it often begs the question of how much is appropriate to share with our followers or our close friends. Remember that it is ultimately your decision as to when and how you tell your friends and close relations about your situation.
Do not feel pressured in any way, especially regarding confidential medical details. With that being said, it can be comforting to know that caretakers and family will be there for you after your operation -- make sure you have the support you need to the extent to which you feel comfortable.
2. Treat your energy and capacity as if they were spoons.
Allow me to explain. One mentality that has radically changed the way I approached self care was the spoon theory: if one were to imagine their energy supply as a finite number of clean spoons they had to use throughout the day, then it is a matter of strategy on how one should distribute their spoons for the day.
This tip can be applied to all aspects of life with a chronic illness, but especially after surgery. Don’t be afraid to prioritize yourself and your health during your postoperative recovery period. Those of us with IBD and chronic illnesses already have fewer ‘spoons’ to last throughout the day; as a result, we must be more mindful with our energy supply. Especially after surgery, we should focus on physical recovery and pain management above all.
3. Be kind to yourself.
Sometimes, getting out of bed is the most you can do. Or, you might not even have the energy to sit up. What I’ve learned this past month is: you’re doing your best, and that’s enough. Every IBD patient is different; there truly is no one-size-fits-all answer. What I’ve learned is that living with Crohn’s disease looks drastically different from one patient to the next, creating what can be a very isolating and lonely experience.
Nevertheless, with all these tips in mind, I would be remiss not to highlight how fortunate I feel to even have access to surgery and healthcare in the midst of the pandemic. I must also note that many of these tips are contingent upon the assumptions of having caretakers and a flexible routine, luxuries not afforded to many patients in more stringent economic conditions. As patient advocates, we should all be aware of the varying circumstances in which we all receive treatment.
Undergoing surgery never gets easier, no matter how many times one heads into the operating room. However, I hope these tips can make your post-surgery transition a bit easier! Let me know what your self-care routine is like below!